This article has nothing to do with home loan financing or real estate, but I wrote this several years ago and my wife asked me to post it on her blog. It has to do with you and ‘Unlocking Your Hidden Potential,’ because I believe everyone can succeed if they really want to. If you dig down deep, you may find something inside that you didn’t know was there – I am talking about your untapped, hidden potential.
If you want to try something different and most everyone does during their lifetime, why not check it out? If that’s the case, I hope you will consider the following. Remember, every accomplishment begins with a decision to try.
Maybe It’s Time To
- The Problem
Unfortunately, most people (2/3 according to a recent poll) that have a job are unhappy and not fulfilling their dream. They are just happy to have a job, but not always necessarily happy about the job they have. They wonder, is there something better that I could do. If you work at it, I submit that there is. Other people have, why not you?
Some people feel like a squirrel in a cage. That is, they are working hard but getting no where. You go to work, put in your eight hours, pay the bills, etc. You are probably a good worker, a good person, living a reasonably good life, but you can’t seem to get ahead.
There is nothing here that is going to suggest any get rich quick schemes, but will take time and effort on your part. I would be skeptical of anyone that would suggest anything different. Sure, there are some that do very well in a short amount of time, but those cases are few and far between.
- Figure Out What You Want To Do - No sense of direction. It’s an empty feeling, but a lot of people are in that situation. And sometimes we have to change, which means getting out of our comfort zone. You would like to try something else, but most people don’t and they stay the same and suffer than risk change and find relief. Part of you says stay with the familiar, and the other part of you says try something else. The familiar versus the unfamiliar wrestling match continues on and on. Then you finally decide to try something else, but then frustration sets in because you don’t know where or how to get started. So you end up not doing anything. As a result, you’re still bored and unhappy..
Motivation and Inspiration
Often Leads to Frustration
- The 40/40 Syndrome. Working 40 hours per week for 40 years, the 40/40 syndrome. Some people are okay with that and love their job and would not have it any other way. They are a big part of what makes this country tick and should be admired and respected. But maybe you are someone who would like to try something different, and you can do that even in today’s economic climate. To be successful, you must make better choices than you have in the past. You have probably heard the old saying ‘if you keep doing the same things you’ve been doing, you’re going to keep getting the same result.’ That can either be good or bad, depending on the results you are getting. Successful people want to keep doing the same things they have been doing. But even they have to change if they want to stay successful. Montgomery Ward company comes to mind.
- Ask yourself this question: What would you do if you knew that you would not fail? A good question. Let’s try to answer that question. Get a pencil and note pad and write down some ideas of what you would like to do. And don’t share it with anyone else, even friends or relatives. Because believe it or not, to often they are the ones that will discourage you from doing anything. They might say ‘Oh, that won’t work.’ ‘It’s been tried before.’ ‘In today’s economic climate, are you crazy?’
- Or let’s say you have tried something and it turns out to be very successful. Negative people might say ‘Oh, it won’t last,’ or ‘Six months from now you’ll be out of business.’ And on and on, you get the picture. But this is your life, not theirs. Your dream isn’t the same as someone else’s dream, it’s your dream. And take your note pad everywhere you go, because you might not have some ideas right now, but you might later on today or this week. Seem a little uncomfortable? It should, because this is something different. And usually when you do something different out of the norm, it feels a little uncomfortable. But don’t let that stop you.
You Were Born To Win
I believe that people were born to win, but to often are conditioned to lose. Would you explain that? I’m glad you asked. Here goes. The next time you go to a zoo or a circus, you might notice a mammoth elephant tied to a post with a small rope or chain. You might wonder why that is because you know that mammoth elephant could free itself with one good tug. The answer: It’s because at a very young age, the elephant was tied to a post with a very large chain. After several attempts, the elephant could not get away and is convinced once and for all that it never can. So it gives up trying, never realizing that it could easily get away after the elephant becomes much stronger.
Sometimes we are like that elephant. We are convinced, and sometimes by well meaning people, that we will never amount to much. And so we give up without even trying, and a lot of hidden potential is lost as a result. What a shame.
I am convinced that cemeteries are filled with a lot of people that had unfulfilled dreams.
- That Doesn’t Have to Happen to You
Fear - One of the reasons that people don’t want to try something new and different is because of fear. Fear of failure. If I fail, what will my friends say? Or incredibly, fear of success. What if my idea really takes off? How would I be able to handle it? And so it seems we are doomed to failure even before we get started. It isn’t our circumstances that destroy us, it’s our own fear inside us. Fear is the most destructive force in the world. Either you will control fear or fear will control you. Fear destroys all of our hopes and dreams. We get excited about something, and then we let fear kill it. Fear destroys motivation and enthusiasm. There are over 350 passages in the Bible that tell us ‘fear not’. If that’s the case, then why do we still have so much fear? Scientists tell us that we have two fears when we are born. The fear of loud noise and the fear of falling. If that’s true, where do all the other fears come from? So what are some of the reasons why some people are successful and some aren’t? Let’s discuss some of those reasons.
- You Must Be Willing To Take Chances
Successful people are willing to take chances and are not afraid to fail. There is a mistaken notion that successful people never experience failures, and they only achieve success because they are lucky. Maybe on rare occasions, but usually nothing could be further from the truth. We all know about the turtle that has two choices - in order to get anywhere, he has to stick his neck out, or he can stay inside his shell where it is comfortable, but at the same time not get anywhere. Nothing great happens when you hold back.
- Never Give Up - Successful people experience failure just like anyone else. The difference is that they just don’t give up. They learn from their mistakes. They persevere, and are persistent. Successful people have a burning desire to succeed. They don’t quit. When they do fail, they might be discouraged for a little while, but not for long. They are back at it again and again until they succeed. Commentator Paul Harvey once said if anyone ever considered him to be successful, he thought it was because every time he got knocked down, he just got right back up.
- Strong Desire To Succeed - Get this. Success has very little to do with age, looks, and past bad experiences. Success does have a lot to do with your desire to succeed, having faith in yourself, having a good positive attitude and realizing that you have tremendous unlimited untapped potential. Yes you!
Extra Amount Of
- Believe In Yourself - To achieve what you want out of life, you must believe in yourself. If you are not making progress towards the things you want, it’s a sure bet that the lack of belief is where the problem lies. In other words, you are convinced (remember the story about the elephant) that you can’t because of your doubts and are conditioned to think that way.
Avoid Negative Thinking People - Boy, this one is big. Negative thinking people are like crabs in an open bucket. You put one crab in a bucket, and he’ll crawl out on his own. You put two crabs in a bucket, and neither one will crawl out because one of the crabs is always pulling the other one down. Don’t limit yourself by other people’s negative thinking. When you do, then it becomes easy to let go of your dream. My wife has a sign in her office that says ‘people that say it cannot be done should not interrupt other people that are getting it done. ’When you have doubts, analyze your doubts one by one. Look at the pros and cons. Tackle and conquer each doubt and don’t let doubts beat you. Be an overcomer and overcome your doubts. As you get into your dream putting the pieces together to make it happen, more doubts will surely come. Continue to overcome your doubts and stay determined.
- Develop A Good Positive Attitude - It is very important to develop a good positive attitude about yourself. Attitude can be defined as ‘a way of looking at things.’
- Be Enthusiastic - I love to be around people that are enthusiastic. No matter where I go and who I meet, that smile is the first thing that I see. That smile tells me that you enjoy life and you enjoy what you’re doing. “Find what you love to do and you’ll never work another day of your life” says author Harvey Mackay. Be enthusiastic.
- Be A Problem Solver - If you want to achieve the things you want out of life, you have to be a problem solver.
- How do you do that? Here goes. Make a list of all of the obstacles or problems that stand in your way of achieving what you want to do. In other words, what is it that is keeping you from your dreams. Problem solving is challenging at times, but it can and should be fun. It will take you places that you have never been before. It gets your creative juices flowing. I don’t know about you, but when I solve a problem, I get encouraged. On inventing the light bulb, did you know that Thomas Edison said that he never failed once? He just simply learned from thousands of experiments and eventually he invented the light bulb. The rest is history. People that are really successful are usually not geniuses, and they would be the first to tell you that. But most of them have a strong desire to succeed, have a good attitude, learn from their mistakes, and they don’t give up. Someone once defined genius, and I think accurately, as 10% inspiration, and 90% perspiration. These are some of the ingredients that make up successful people.
- Money Isn’t The Only Reward Success doesn’t necessarily have to mean making a lot of money, even though that certainly can and does happen. I know a lot of wonderful people who are financially poor, but are happy and are considered successful because they are serving people in their community through volunteer work and they enjoy doing what they are doing. There are many other kinds of rewards besides money. Remember, a big part of success is achieving a sense of purpose and fulfillment. Success to me is being enthused and excited about getting up every morning and saying ‘it’s going to be a great day.’ Success is about helping people worse off than you. Success is having a great attitude and enjoying life to the fullest. Once you find out what you enjoy doing, your life will turn around. You won’t be the same person you were before. Not even close. You will look forward to Monday mornings instead of dreading them. You won’t be in that rut anymore. A rut has been described as ‘a grave with the ends kicked out.’
- Find A Good Mentor - A good mentor is someone that has faith in you and your dreams and is someone that will give you a good word of advice and encouragement. When you find this mentor, take him/her out to lunch or buy them coffee somewhere. It is well worth it. They are hard to find, but they are out there. Ask questions and be a good listener. I figure God created us with two ears and one mouth, and we should use them in the same proportion. It think it is interesting that the letters that are in the word ‘silent’ are also, when rearranged, are the same letters in the word ‘listen.’
- Set Goals - When you figure out what you want to do, make a list of specific goals. Once you do that, list the problems and obstacles to those goals. Then list your solutions. Seem uncomfortable? It should, because it is getting out of your comfort zone. Don’t let that drag you down, keep at it.
- Start Today! You have come this far, don’t stop now. You have a lot of good intentions, which is good, but that isn’t nearly good enough. Please don’t put it off until tomorrow. The fancy word for that is ‘procrastination.’ It is no secret that one action is a lot more valuable than a thousand good intentions. Very few dreams come by themselves.
“I don’t let things happen to me,
I happen to things”
- Unlock your hidden potential
- Figure out what you want to do.
- Conquer fear.
- Take reasonable chances.
- Never give up, be persistent.
- Have a strong desire to succeed.
- Believe in yourself.
- Have a good attitude.
- Find a good mentor.
- Start today.
More Thoughts On Change
Change is very seldom easy, because we get so set in our ways. We stay in a comfort zone, even though we are miserable. You won’t necessarily have to give up what you are doing now. Keep your full or part time job and try something else part time on the side. There are a lot of successful people that started out this way.
We Change When The Pain
To Change Is Less Than The
Pain To Remain As We Are
It’s How You Set Your Sail
A few years ago I was watching the ‘America’s Cup’ yacht race. I think it is interesting that the same wind that was driving one yacht a certain direction, was driving another yacht the opposite direction. The difference was how each crew on that yacht had set their sail. And to get the best results, they were constantly changing their sails to get the most speed throughout the race.
Achieving Success Can Be Described As . . .
Setting your goals
Unlocking your potential
Choosing to look at the bright side of life.
Committing yourself to being a winner
Study to be successful.
I Have Tried, But I Don’t See Any Progress
Question: I have been working on my dream for a long time now, and I don’t see any results yet. What should I do?
Answer: Keep working on your dream. Just because you don’t see any results right away doesn’t necessarily mean that you aren’t making any progress. Be persistent.
Consider the Chinese Bamboo Tree in the Far East. This tree is different from other trees in that it doesn’t break through the ground until after 4 years of consistent watering and planted in good soil. And when it finally does break through the ground, it grows at an astonishing rate. In fact, the Chinese Bamboo tree can grow to a height of 90 feet in a period of 5 weeks! So the question is, when did the tree start to grow. Answer: As soon as it was planted in the ground and watered, even though there weren’t any visual results right away.
In a nutshell, it takes not only persistence, but patience and discipline on a daily basis, week after week, month after month, year after year.
Everyone gets 24 hours in a day. Donald Trump or Bill Gates does not have any more time in a day than me, you, or anyone else. So the question becomes, what do you do with those 24 hours. I know I am meddling here a little bit, but do you spend a lot of time watching TV as an example? You are the only one that can really answer that question. Too much play is not good, but neither is being a workaholic. Moderation and balance between the two is a good plan, and most people know where they should draw the line. If your play time is a lot more than your work time, then maybe you’re not that serious about your dream.
Yesterday is gone and you can’t get it back. But you can do something about the next day and the next. Your future is something you do have control over.
If time management is a problem area, it might be a good idea to take notes on what you do during any one day, and adjust accordingly.
A Good Resource
If you are wanting to start a business or have a good product idea, I have a good book for you to read. It is called ‘Your Idea, Inc.’ by Sandy Abrams, and it retails for $14.95. This book helps answer many questions that you may have to get started on your idea. You can probably get it at your local bookstore or an online store. I bought mine at Barnes and Noble.
Today is the first day of the rest of your life.
Now is the time to make it happen, but the choice is yours.
The Power Of Desire – By Willie Jolley
‘There is nothing better for a man than to rejoice in his work.’
Ecclesiastes 3 : 22
Positive people see opportunity in every difficulty, negative people see difficulty in every opportunity. Which person are you?
Submitted for your consideration by David Sherman